Disciplining Children:Spanking or Not to Spank?

I'm always in a dilemma when it comes to disciplining my children. I grew up with a corporal punishment as a form of my father's discipline. Belt or guava stick were my constant "companions" when I erred. Though I resented this kind of upbringing but nevertheless I reasoned out that it made me of what I AM TODAY-a professional teacher and a teacher leader of a teacher organization.

Taday, I have a headache. I do not want to replicate the "stick" discipline I received but soemetimes I forgat, I boxed and kicked my eldest 12 year old child--the first born. He is the type of a child who is restless and extra energetic since baby. He would not follow instruction in one, two or three instructions until you're shouting at the top of your voice.

I regretted if I inflict pain onhim. But circumstances may compel me to use my hands and feet if he teased his two youngers sisters until they cried.

My child is intelligent. In fact he is more knowledgeable in computer than I. The only thing is that: he lacks study habit. If only he has self-control, maybe he would also be in the honor list.

Sometimes I also feel guilty when I punish him. I had already attended seminars to stop corporal punishment sponsored by a non-government organization with international tie up. These seminars have no effects at all especially if I'm angry.

Some of you may say that I lack patience. You are wrong with this because I'm the type of guy who would not shout unless the house is on fire. I usually tried to be patient but to no avail. I also give consolation to myself that my child would change. Yes he changed too; but so little and so temporary.

Raising a child is really a dificult task for us parents. If so happens that we think we are good and have done everything for the welfare of our children and yet they remain unchanging especially when they are already matured, then we are guiltless. If they continue with their bad atttitude, then all we can do is to accept our fate or failure in raising our children as good citizens of this country and the world.